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Parenting is a whirlwind.

No matter what kind of parent you are, raising children is as challenging as it is rewarding. Raising a child who is kind, confident, and strong enough to face the world takes work—and most of it comes from you.

As a parent, you are your child's first role model. Children observe everything and learn their first lessons about the world and how to behave from you. Many parents understand this and try to adopt a parenting style that teaches their children without disrespecting them.

Investing in parenting skills will help you and your children grow together. Here are some qualities you can model to help your children become the emotionally intelligent and intelligent people you want them to be.

12 Parenting Skills to Improve

Learning how to be a better parent is a top priority for moms, dads, and caregivers around the world. But the resources are few. There is also a growing pressure among parents to approach this process differently from the way they were raised. According to a report by the Pew Research Center, nearly half of parents say they aim to raise their children differently than their parents. And the movement toward gentle or mindful parenting in recent years calls for parents to pay attention to how they interact with their children and always respond to them with respect and positivity.

Needless to say, parenting is complicated. But whether you're a gentle parent or follow a different leadership style, you can work to become a better parent by honing the following skills.

1. Communication

Being a parent requires constant communication. In childhood, this communication may sound like: "Don't touch it!" or "Don't eat that!" And as your kids get older, those common phrases might be: "Stay home until they're 9!" And "make good choices!"

No matter how old your children are, developing strong communication skills early on will make parenting easier and more effective. Use age-appropriate language that approaches teaching with fairness and an open mind. Responding to behavior with calm and clear language isn't always easy, but a positive relationship starts with communication.

1. Active listening

Many children love to talk. They want to tell you about their toys, the bug they saw in the park, and the million other thoughts going through their growing minds.

As parents, these early years are a great time to practice active listening and show your children that you care. And the more you practice this skill, the more you'll teach your children that they can come to you with anything—which is especially important as they get older and have bigger problems.

1. Empathy

As an adult, it's easy to forget about childhood challenges. And when they don't listen to your commands or start throwing tantrums, the frustration increases.

But children's brains continue to develop into their late 20s, so they won't always be able to do what you want. Additionally, they don't finish forming the part of their brain responsible for emotional regulation until they're eight or nine. Approaching children with empathy and compassion allows their minds to grow without additional pressure or confusion.

1. Education

As a parent, you are probably your child's first teacher. You teach them to eat, walk and talk long before they enter formal education. And even when kids start school, you'll still be teaching them by helping them with homework and encouraging positive behavior.

Studying different teaching and coaching skills can help you find the best way to teach your children and help them start their academic careers. It's also good practice to research learning styles and find out which one is right for your child. That way, you can give them the specific tools they need to succeed.

1. Praise

Research shows that parental praise builds resilience and self-esteem. In fact, vague praise is actually more beneficial than specific praise because it doesn't associate a child's good work with traits like intelligence. Vague praise is less stressful and gives kids more room to grow.

As a parent, you should try to be an encourager to your child, showering them with praise and helping them develop self-love. But it's also important to do it thoughtfully and intentionally so they have room to grow and don't feel pressured to perform.

1. Conflict Resolution

A child's world contains more conflict than you might think, from parental rules to playground fights. If you want your child to navigate childhood and adulthood successfully, they need to understand the basics of conflict resolution.

Teach them this vital skill by talking them through disagreements with others, such as you or their siblings, and by modeling effective conflict resolution in your own life. Children are sponges, and showing them how to behave is often more effective than telling them.

1. Safety

Learning how to be a good parent usually starts with keeping your child safe. You'll baby-proof the house, learn how to hold them properly, and watch them like a hawk to make sure they're well and out of harm's way. It's an important part of good parenting, but how can you be sure your child stays safe when you're not around?

Following and teaching your child safety basics can go a long way toward giving you peace of mind, especially if you're employed. Show them how to communicate when they are hurt and how to find a trusted adult in any situation. It's hard to think about worst-case scenarios, but preparing your child helps prevent them.

1. Autonomy and Independence

Effective parenting isn't just about your role in the family's happiness and health. Your children also need to learn how to be independent and strong enough to know how to navigate the "real world" when they become adults.

Start by giving them responsibilities in your family. Young children can do simple tasks like picking up their toys or feeding their pets. And as you explore the world together, explain what you're doing, like taking the subway or going to the movies, so they know what to do when they're independent.

1. Collaboration

Teamwork is a vital life skill that everyone needs to learn—especially if you want your child to work well with others at school and even at the office. One of the best ways for kids to learn teamwork skills is to start practicing them with you.

Work together to complete homework projects, schoolwork, and more to teach them what healthy collaboration and cooperation looks like. Couple your efforts with positive reinforcement, and you'll see your kids become expert team players in no time.

1. Stress Management

Children's mental health has worsened since 2020, with the American Academy of Pediatrics calling it a national crisis. With this in mind, some of the most important advice for parents is to teach children how to manage stress healthily and share their feelings.

Social media, bullying, and more are stressing kids today significantly. If they have great stress management techniques in their emotional toolbox, they can cope effectively and become stronger, setting the tone for their future emotional regulation skills.

1. Life Skills

No list of parenting tips is complete without the obvious: teach your kids practical life skills. They'll eventually leave home and live on their own, and when they do, they'll need to know how to do their own laundry, cook their own meals, and do all the other things that are part of everyday life.

It's also important to help your kids develop the problem-solving strategies and other soft skills they need to succeed in the adult world.

1. Patience

It is almost impossible to overstate the importance of patience in life. People need patience to get through everything from waiting at the local coffee shop to getting test results from the doctor. Teach your children to be patient at a young age and show patience in interacting with them. This is a skill that will serve them for the rest of their lives.

August 7, 1404

Parenting is a whirlwind.

No matter what kind of parent you are, raising children is as challenging as it is rewarding. Raising a child who is kind, confident, and strong enough to face the world takes work—and most of it comes from you.

As a parent, you are your child's first role model. Children observe everything and learn their first lessons about the world and how to behave from you. Many parents understand this and try to adopt a parenting style that teaches their children without disrespecting them.

Investing in parenting skills will help you and your children grow together. Here are some qualities you can model to help your children become the emotionally intelligent and intelligent people you want them to be.

12 Parenting Skills to Improve

Learning how to be a better parent is a top priority for moms, dads, and caregivers around the world. But the resources are few. There is also a growing pressure among parents to approach this process differently from the way they were raised. According to a report by the Pew Research Center, nearly half of parents say they aim to raise their children differently than their parents. And the movement toward gentle or mindful parenting in recent years calls for parents to pay attention to how they interact with their children and always respond to them with respect and positivity.

Needless to say, parenting is complicated. But whether you're a gentle parent or follow a different leadership style, you can work to become a better parent by honing the following skills.

1. Communication

Being a parent requires constant communication. In childhood, this communication may sound like: "Don't touch it!" or "Don't eat that!" And as your kids get older, those common phrases might be: "Stay home until they're 9!" And "make good choices!"

No matter how old your children are, developing strong communication skills early on will make parenting easier and more effective. Use age-appropriate language that approaches teaching with fairness and an open mind. Responding to behavior with calm and clear language isn't always easy, but a positive relationship starts with communication.

1. Active listening

Many children love to talk. They want to tell you about their toys, the bug they saw in the park, and the million other thoughts going through their growing minds.

As parents, these early years are a great time to practice active listening and show your children that you care. And the more you practice this skill, the more you'll teach your children that they can come to you with anything—which is especially important as they get older and have bigger problems.

1. Empathy

As an adult, it's easy to forget about childhood challenges. And when they don't listen to your commands or start throwing tantrums, the frustration increases.

But children's brains continue to develop into their late 20s, so they won't always be able to do what you want. Additionally, they don't finish forming the part of their brain responsible for emotional regulation until they're eight or nine. Approaching children with empathy and compassion allows their minds to grow without additional pressure or confusion.

1. Education

As a parent, you are probably your child's first teacher. You teach them to eat, walk and talk long before they enter formal education. And even when kids start school, you'll still be teaching them by helping them with homework and encouraging positive behavior.

Studying different teaching and coaching skills can help you find the best way to teach your children and help them start their academic careers. It's also good practice to research learning styles and find out which one is right for your child. That way, you can give them the specific tools they need to succeed.

1. Praise

Research shows that parental praise builds resilience and self-esteem. In fact, vague praise is actually more beneficial than specific praise because it doesn't associate a child's good work with traits like intelligence. Vague praise is less stressful and gives kids more room to grow.

As a parent, you should try to be an encourager to your child, showering them with praise and helping them develop self-love. But it's also important to do it thoughtfully and intentionally so they have room to grow and don't feel pressured to perform.

1. Conflict Resolution

A child's world contains more conflict than you might think, from parental rules to playground fights. If you want your child to navigate childhood and adulthood successfully, they need to understand the basics of conflict resolution.

Teach them this vital skill by talking them through disagreements with others, such as you or their siblings, and by modeling effective conflict resolution in your own life. Children are sponges, and showing them how to behave is often more effective than telling them.

1. Safety

Learning how to be a good parent usually starts with keeping your child safe. You'll baby-proof the house, learn how to hold them properly, and watch them like a hawk to make sure they're well and out of harm's way. It's an important part of good parenting, but how can you be sure your child stays safe when you're not around?

Following and teaching your child safety basics can go a long way toward giving you peace of mind, especially if you're employed. Show them how to communicate when they are hurt and how to find a trusted adult in any situation. It's hard to think about worst-case scenarios, but preparing your child helps prevent them.

1. Autonomy and Independence

Effective parenting isn't just about your role in the family's happiness and health. Your children also need to learn how to be independent and strong enough to know how to navigate the "real world" when they become adults.

Start by giving them responsibilities in your family. Young children can do simple tasks like picking up their toys or feeding their pets. And as you explore the world together, explain what you're doing, like taking the subway or going to the movies, so they know what to do when they're independent.

1. Collaboration

Teamwork is a vital life skill that everyone needs to learn—especially if you want your child to work well with others at school and even at the office. One of the best ways for kids to learn teamwork skills is to start practicing them with you.

Work together to complete homework projects, schoolwork, and more to teach them what healthy collaboration and cooperation looks like. Couple your efforts with positive reinforcement, and you'll see your kids become expert team players in no time.

1. Stress Management

Children's mental health has worsened since 2020, with the American Academy of Pediatrics calling it a national crisis. With this in mind, some of the most important advice for parents is to teach children how to manage stress healthily and share their feelings.

Social media, bullying, and more are stressing kids today significantly. If they have great stress management techniques in their emotional toolbox, they can cope effectively and become stronger, setting the tone for their future emotional regulation skills.

1. Life Skills

No list of parenting tips is complete without the obvious: teach your kids practical life skills. They'll eventually leave home and live on their own, and when they do, they'll need to know how to do their own laundry, cook their own meals, and do all the other things that are part of everyday life.

It's also important to help your kids develop the problem-solving strategies and other soft skills they need to succeed in the adult world.

1. Patience

It is almost impossible to overstate the importance of patience in life. People need patience to get through everything from waiting at the local coffee shop to getting test results from the doctor. Teach your children to be patient at a young age and show patience in interacting with them. This is a skill that will serve them for the rest of their lives.