Why is he sometimes too aggressive?

**Why do we sometimes become overly aggressive?** Anger is a natural human emotion that all people and even other animals experience many times throughout their lives. Although aggression and aggressive behavior may be considered a negative trait, the fact is that the feeling of anger has a defensive aspect for all living beings, and that is why it has been with us throughout millions of years of evolution. A creature that does not have anger cannot defend itself properly and endangers its survival and those around it. However, if we experience this feeling in the wrong circumstances or to an unusual degree, we will create problems for ourselves and others. In this article, we examine some causes of aggression that is disproportionate to the situation. If you have been told by people around you that you are aggressive, maybe you can find the reason in this article, and if someone you know is overly aggressive, you can understand more about his condition by reading this article. Why did I become aggressive? In response to the question **why do we sometimes become overly aggressive?** we must say that aggression is one of the emotional reactions that may occur in a person for various reasons. This can be caused by suppressed emotions, inability to manage anger, or negative experiences in childhood. For example, people who grew up in unsupportive environments may turn to aggression due to feelings of rejection and abandonment. Also, physical factors such as improper nutrition and lack of vitamins can also affect emotional states and increase the likelihood of aggression. In the following, we will examine in more detail ** the reasons for aggression and ways to manage it **. ### Feeling neglected or unfair When a person feels constantly ignored or treated unfairly, this can gradually lead to internalized anger. This feeling of being ignored may occur in the workplace, personal relationships, or even in everyday interactions. When this situation continues, the person may suddenly become aggressive at the slightest provocation because they feel that their voice is not being heard. In such situations, aggression is often a defensive reaction to gain attention from others or to protect oneself from injustice. To manage this condition, it is important that the person learns how to express their feelings in a healthy way and uses effective communication methods so that their needs are properly understood. ### Hunger or low blood sugar It may sound strange, but prolonged starvation or low blood sugar can lead to aggression. When the body faces a lack of energy, the brain can hardly control emotions and the person becomes more irritable. This phenomenon is a physiological reaction that many people have experienced. To prevent this type of aggression, it is recommended to have regular meals and avoid excessive consumption of simple sugars that cause rapid fluctuations in blood sugar. Eating balanced and nutritious food can help stabilize mood. ### You have remembered an injury from the past We all have bitter memories from the past that made us feel ashamed, sad, inadequate, etc. Since it is very difficult and anxiety-provoking for us to remember and reoccur such memories, our mind unconsciously tries to prevent the repetition of such events and even fades that memory in our mind. Now, if a situation occurs in our life that forces us to recall or repeat the hurtful memories of the past, we may become more aggressive than expected. An example of this type of aggression is related to a man who did not like to go on a trip with his wife, and his wife's insistence on him caused him to become aggressive. Studies have shown that he dreads travel more than he hates it. When he was a little boy, his family had an accident on a road trip and he lost his father. This incident was extremely bitter and painful for him, to the extent that he could no longer overcome his anxiety about traveling on the road and did not travel with his friends. In short, sometimes the aggression of humans is rooted in an extreme fear of threatening their survival. ### You are mourning In response to the question **why do we sometimes become overly aggressive?** we can also refer to being sad. Mourning is a relatively long and sensitive process that does not only occur when facing the death of loved ones, but whenever we have lost someone or something in some way, we go through the mourning process. At each stage of the grieving process, we experience various emotions with great intensity. Although this process is painful, it helps us to cope with the new conditions of life and to be able to accept the feeling of sadness and the painful event that happened and continue our life in the new world. Due to the sensitivity and vulnerability of the human spirit during the mourning process, a person who is grieving may react strongly to small issues. For example, if you have recently separated from your spouse whom you loved, maybe the sound of the neighbor's music, which you used to hear and had no problem with, will inflame you so much that you have a strong reaction towards your neighbor and aggressively warn him to lower the volume of the music. ### Alcohol or drug use Alcohol and some drugs can cause disinhibition and make it difficult to control emotions. These substances affect the central nervous system and may predispose a person to aggressive behavior. In some cases, the person under the influence of these substances shows extreme reactions that do not occur under normal conditions. To reduce this type of aggression, the best way is to reduce or stop using these substances. In case of severe dependence, getting help from addiction treatment specialists can be an effective solution. Also, learning alternative ways to **manage stress**, such as exercise or meditation, can be helpful. Having unrealistic expectations of yourself or others When a person has unreasonable expectations from himself or those around him and these expectations are not met, feelings of frustration and anger arise. This situation can lead to blaming oneself or others and ultimately aggression. For example, someone who thinks they must always be perfect may be hard on themselves or blame others when they don't meet that standard. To deal with this problem, it is important to revise your expectations and accept that no one is perfect. Practicing kindness to yourself and others can reduce the intensity of anger and aggression. Also, learning problem-solving skills rather than suppressing or exploding anger helps. ### Your tolerance is full **Why did I become aggressive?** Maybe you are a calm and reserved person who rarely gets aggressive. But if one day, you have experienced all the possible bad luck, how will you feel at the end of the day? Imagine you wake up late in the morning and you are in a hurry to go to work, you drink tea while it has not yet cooled down and your mouth burns, you get stuck in traffic and your delay increases, when you arrive at work, you find that the power is out and the elevator does not work, now you have to climb five floors with stairs, when you get to your office, you are warm, but you cannot turn on the air conditioner and air conditioner, because you do not have electricity. Then you hear from your colleagues that your boss noticed your delay and gave you a warning. Meanwhile Abdarchi brings you tea, but the color of the tea is not what you want. Maybe this recent issue is not so significant and painful, but it is not at all unlikely that someone who spent such a morning would be aggressive to the poor waterman and refuse to accept tea from him. In such cases, aggression is only due to the filling of the person's tolerance capacity and that is why it does not fit the situation. ### You have suppressed your feelings for a long time Suppression of emotions is one of the most important factors that we should pay attention to when examining the issue of **why do we sometimes become overly aggressive?** Emotions never go away. Ideally, a mature person can face and control their emotions, however unpleasant. But due to the difficulty of this process, most people unconsciously suppress their unpleasant feelings. As the emotions are suppressed, they fall out of the circle of consciousness, but their psychic energy is still there and struggling to survive. As a result, the person is under tension, the cause of which is not clear to him. When such a war is going on inside a person, minor events can cause great aggression. For example, if you have been unhappy with your spouse's smoking for a long time, but you do not express your displeasure, it is possible that you have an argument with him about another issue that may be less important, which will lead to disproportionate aggression. ### Chronic pains or physical diseases Long-term pain and chronic illnesses can significantly affect a person's mood. When a person is constantly dealing with physical discomfort, their tolerance for everyday stress decreases. This situation may lead to irritability and quick reactions, because the person's energy and ability to control his emotions is limited. In such cases, pain management through appropriate treatment methods and learning relaxation techniques can be helpful. Also, the people around should understand that the person's aggression may be caused by his physical condition and treat him with patience and sympathy. ### Feeling of helplessness or lack of control over life When a person feels that he has no control over his life circumstances, he may experience frustration and anger. This feeling of helplessness can occur in the workplace, personal relationships, or even when facing social issues. Aggression in these cases often reflects a person's attempt to regain a sense of lost control, even if it is done in an unhealthy way. To deal with this, it is important to focus on the areas of life that you can control. Setting small and achievable goals as well as learning problem-solving skills can help regain a sense of control and reduce aggression. ### You have anxiety Having anxiety makes your mood sensitive because, evolutionarily, an anxious person is someone who feels threatened and is ready to react defensively at any moment. In such a situation, anything may make you aggressive. For example, you may love children very much and if you meet children in public, talk and play with them or if you see them crying, try to calm them down. Now imagine that you are going to a sensitive job interview that you are very nervous about. While you are sitting in the taxi, you are trying to review some of your important words, but the noise of the child who is sitting next to you with his mother has disturbed you. In such a situation, your anxiety may put so much pressure on you that you aggressively warn the child's mother to calm the situation. ### Financial problems or economic pressure Stress caused by financial problems is one of the common factors of aggression. When a person is constantly worried about making ends meet or paying off their debts, this anxiety can easily turn into anger. Economic pressure not only affects a person's psyche, but it can also affect his relationships with others and cause tension in the family or work environment. To manage this situation, financial planning and consultation with experts in this field can be helpful. Also, dividing big problems into smaller and solvable parts can reduce feelings of helplessness and provide practical solutions. Being in stressful or toxic environments Tense environments, both at home and at work, can constantly expose a person to stress and make them prone to aggression. If a person is in an environment where there is humiliation, insult or unreasonable pressure, his tolerance will decrease over time and he may react explosively. In such a situation, it is necessary to try to change the environment or create healthy boundaries in the relationship. If changing the environment is not possible, learning ways to cope with stress and maintain inner peace can help a person to have better reactions. Lack of communication skills Some people have problems expressing their feelings and needs due to not learning proper communication skills. When a person can't get his point across or feels that others aren't listening, he may resort to aggression out of frustration. This is especially true in close relationships. Teaching communication skills such as active listening, expressing emotions clearly, and controlling tone of voice can help reduce aggression. Participating in effective communication workshops or relationship counseling can also be a good solution. ### Hormonal effects or physiological changes Hormonal fluctuations, such as those that occur during menstruation, pregnancy, or menopause, can affect mood and make a person prone to irritability and aggression. Also, some endocrine diseases (such as thyroid problems) may also cause sudden changes in behavior. In these cases, it is necessary to see a doctor to check the hormonal status and receive appropriate treatment. Also, being aware of these changes and planning to manage them (for example, by reducing stressful activities during sensitive periods) can help. **Summary** In this article, we answered the question **Why do we sometimes become too aggressive?** As it was said, anger is a natural emotion among living beings, which is necessary for our life. Everyone can learn the skill of anger management to use this emotion in a productive way. If you have not been able to implement the positive role of anger in your life and you need help to control anger, contact us. Our specialists at Jan Ziba Clinic will be happy to help you. You can contact the following numbers to receive online counseling and psychological services. The way of online communication is completely according to your opinion and on the platform of your choice. Phone number: 021-26701544 22895248-021 Mobile: 09102036378