Identification of toxic people and methods

Getting to know the methods of **identifying toxic people and methods of facing these people** will help you to allocate your communication circle to people who have a positive effect on your personality development and mental peace. The material presented in this article is taken from the book "Toxic People" by Lilian Glass, translated by Roghieh Karimi. Earlier we talked about "toxic parents" and their negative impact on children's future. It is interesting to know that parents are not the only people who can make such an impact on our lives. In any period of life, we may encounter people whose association threatens our mental health. In this article, we try to learn to identify **toxic people** and have the best reaction against them. **Who are toxic people?** In order to **identify toxic people and ways to deal with these people**, we must first get to know the characteristics of toxic people. **Toxic people** are those who intentionally or unintentionally harm us. This damage is mainly in the form of destroying our self-confidence and dignity, and the toxic person tries to keep us defenseless against these damages. A toxic person can be from any social, economic class, age, family level and education. People who have to endure **toxic people** in their lives suffer from mental illnesses and even physical illnesses. Weakness in the body's immune system is one of the complications of being stuck in a toxic state. Also, when you don't know the reason for your mood being narrow, one of the main reasons is the presence of **toxic people** around you. **Identifying toxic people in life** In order to **identify toxic people and ways to deal with them**, we need to check some signs: - Emotional signs: Do you feel drained after talking to him? Do you lose your temper after calling him? Do you feel that you are not a desirable person after meeting him? - Behavioral signs: Do you want to avoid facing him forever? Do you feel like you need sedatives after hanging out with him? Is his behavior with you in private the same as in the presence of others? - Physical symptoms: Do you get headaches when this person is around? Do you feel upset in your stomach in the presence of this person? Do you feel tightness in your voice and throat with his presence? Communication signs: Do you feel excited when talking to this person? Do the words of this person annoy you? Do you feel good when you are temporarily away from this person? If your answer to several of the above questions is positive, then it should be said that the person in question is a toxic person in your life and you should minimize his destructive influence in your life as soon as possible. **Methods of dealing with toxic people in life** The first step in identifying toxic people and ways to deal with them is knowing and understanding toxic people. You should know that people are not toxic from birth, but circumstances make some people become **toxic people**. They may have a bitter memory of the past, or they may have become **poisonous people** due to not having the love of their parents or other issues. Jealousy is the basis of many toxic behaviors. The feeling of jealousy can be considered a completely natural reaction; It's like a small child's jealousy of a sibling younger than him who has been noticed by his parents. This feeling causes behavior to attract the attention of parents, and the cause is dissatisfaction with oneself, feeling worthless, etc. The next step is to accept the fact that there will always be those who are not interested in us and that this issue is beyond our control. If we come to terms with this truth and understand that we don't have to be kind to everyone, it's easier to deal with toxic people. Special skills can also make us more capable in dealing with **toxic people**. For example, you can give a small price to **toxic people in life** with the skill of low attention, remove tensions with the skill of humor, and prove to them that what they are saying is stupid with the skill of questioning with calmness. Disconnection is also a skill that will eventually be explored. If you cannot deal with **toxic people** in any way and their existence causes irreparable damage to your life and health, it is better to remove these people from your life. **What should we do after identifying toxic people?** After identifying and applying a new approach to **toxic people**, you need to be kind to yourself and repair yourself and your psyche a little. To begin with, you need to be aware that you are angry with someone else and not blame yourself. Never be complacent and vent your anger by writing a letter. Try to move in line with your goals and move towards success in your personal life. Learn from your experience so that you don't get involved in the same situation again. **Summary** Identifying toxic people and ways to deal with them is one of the essential skills in social and professional life. **Toxic people** refers to those who intentionally or unintentionally cause negative feelings and damage to the spirits of others. **Toxic people** are usually characterized by selfish behavior, constant criticism, and lack of respect for others' boundaries. To deal with **toxic people**, the first step is to identify the symptoms of a **toxic relationship**, such as feeling tired and low self-esteem after interacting with them. Then, setting clear boundaries and limiting the time you interact with these people can help maintain mental health. Also, using social support and professional counseling when needed can help a person to get rid of the negative effects of these relationships. Don't forget that if you don't value yourself, no one else can respect you. You must take care of your soul, mind and body. If you are still involved in **toxic relationships** and you cannot manage it alone, contact us. The specialists of Jan Ziba Clinic are eagerly ready to help you.